This is Bridget, she's been all over the Internet and she GETS it
I really REALLY want to believe that people who send braggy cards do so completely unintentionally, but sometimes when I see a card I imagine the conversation going like this:
Hey honey, can you tell me which of these pictures of us in front of the Eiffel Tower looks the best? I can't imagine a better way to let our friends and family know that we are celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ than by reminding them of the fancy European vacation we took over the summer.
Ok, so I am optimistic that these conversations don't happen, but do you see the kind of message a card can send? Here's a few more to think about
The wedding photo:
Hey there, didn't want to spend the money to have you at my wedding but I DO want you to see how fabulous I looked!
The baby announcement:
Woohoo, we're honoring The Lord this season by having sex for the purpose He intended. Oh, you've been trying too? You fail!
The professional photoshoot collage:
Look how perfect we are in our color coordinated, un-wrinkled outfits. Also, we got multiple children to pose perfectly at the same time, because our kids are better than yours.
The photo that includes the large house:
The boat photo:
We want to look rich
The year in review:
Que the "Everything is Awesome" song from The Lego Movie . . . Is it that awesome, really?
So here's the deal on all of these, 99% of the time when I get one of these cards I love it. I mean, color coordinated outfits rock and its nice to have family pictures so you were getting them done anyway, get the bang for the buck. I love being reminded how I got to be there on their special day when a couple uses a wedding photo ( but seriously, if I'm a b list friend don't rub it in) and my first thought is to be excited when someone shares good news of a baby or other excitement. But when I see these cards from people I don't know, or maybe know but don't particularly care for the snarky thoughts start exploding in my mind. So be careful who you send your cards to y'all . . . And yes, if I send one to you I would love one back even if its the kind I just snarked about.
Maybe it's because the holidays are now and will forever be a bitter sweet time for me or maybe I've just gotten a bit more sentimental as I've aged but I really believe Christmas cards should send a message of I am thinking of you rather than I want you to look at me. We have email, blogs, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, ect to share ourselves with the world; brag all you want all day long there. The older I get the less Christmas is about presents and all the other 21st century trimmings and more about the love. The love that God has for us that he sent a Savior to die for our sins and how we should at least try to show that kind of love to eachother. I think about the humble life of that Savior, about his teachings, and how we are called by Him to live. I like to think of Christmas cards as taking a little piece of love and sending it out into the world. On a sadder and more mathematical note I think of how this season is very hard for millions of people and I hope that a mailbox full of braggy cards doesn't make them sadder.
This year I cut my card list in half. I choose a simple, unairbrushed, festive photo I already had available and included pictures of the girls, because come on , they're adorable. I kept the message simple: Merry Christmas . . . And really y'all, I mean that.